Your Tribe

Have you ever been surrounded by so many people but still felt lonely? With the abundance and popularity of social media/phones, etc. This feeling makes total sense to me. While technology is amazing and I am SO thankful for it, being 1,000 miles away from all family... it really shouldn't be used to totally replace those relationships.  Do you ever just sit and chat with a friend in person and feel totally renewed after? Being at home with little ones 24/7 makes me realize just how much I appreciate those relationships even more. For friends to make me a priority and willing to visit even though they know with certainty that we will be disrupted, means everything. I go through stages where I want to get out of the house every day... and then stages where I never want to leave. This highly depends on the weather and also the stage of life I'm in with littles. I have learned a better balance. I have paid attention to what makes me feel renewed and what totally stresses me out. This balance is never ending, though. I don't think it's something I will ever fully reach and that makes total sense. We will never fully feel balanced because we aren't supposed to. We will go through days that feel so right and that we have it all together and then other days that are just meant to survive. Of course we don't want to stay there in the survival days because life is too precious to waste. BUT, sometimes you just can't help it! You have to hold onto the hope that those days don't last forever. Bittersweet, really.
Anyways, my point is that it is TOTALLY life changing and life giving to find your "tribe" of people that help you to feel loved, wanted, renewed. Of course there will be people in life that are draining. There are people that will hide behind the face of perfection.  There will be people that put on a show of everything being wonderful in life when it isn't so. Sometimes that is their way of survival. We are all broken.  But I think it's ok to find the people that help you to be a better person. Of course we are called to help others and be others-centered... but I also think it's important to find your tribe and build on those relationships as well. That will keep you going. Those relationships will keep you moving forward in this battlefield of life.  Those people will be there for you in your dark days and you will be there for them.

 Sometimes, people come into my life and I just don't understand how and why I got so lucky with them. Friends who check on me often. Friends who were there for a really big loss in my life, the loss of my mom. Friends who will legit bring me coffee and sit with me in my living room surrounded by laundry and fighting children.  Sometimes I wonder what I've done to deserve such beautiful people in my life. Sometimes I wonder what I have to offer even my husband who does everything for us, never expecting anything in return. It really blows my mind some days. I just pray that I have something to offer these beautiful people in my life, in return. I pray that I can also be a blessing to them as they are to me. I pray that we can continue to grow like this, continue to be honest with each other, continue to share struggles and not feel like we have to be perfect for each other. That we can accept each other in our weaknesses, in our bad days, in our overwhelmed days.

 I am SO lucky and blessed to have my tribe. So thankful for friends and a husband who are always there for me and make me feel loved and special on the days I need it the most, and they didn't even know it!

 This life is so special and the people we share it with are everything.  

 Find your tribe and cherish them.


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